Monday, February 07, 2005

babies and other things

now for the real post...

Okay so the topic of babies has been running in and invading alot of my conversations lately... how many babies is too many? am I going to have more babies? ppl are planning on having babies... and the topic of birth control has also been coming up alot lately.... so I thought that I would talk about it here amongst friends and total strangers alike....

so how many babies is too many? depends on who you are... I don't think I have reached too many yet, but I think I will know when I get there... for some ppl one is too many, but others can have like 6 or something...

am I going to have more babies? I think so... I don't know when, and I am not keeping anything fro you... it is just a thought... I will let you know when it happens though...

I have a question for those that are planning on having babies though, seeing how I have not planed the previous ones that I have acquired. is it easier planning them? also how is it emotionally and mentally when you plan to get pregnant? how do you plan emotionally for pregnancy? I was thinking that I might plan the next one but I also think it would be very emotionally taxing so let me know...

and now... BIRTH CONTROL... this conversation line was started on a message board the other day and it made me think of a conversation with a bunch of unmarried, ppl about a year ago... The question that started both dialogues was "What is God's take on birth control?" I still don't know that I have worked out all my feelings on this, and I think it is a personal decision that you and God and your spouse have to come to... I personally haven't taken birth control in a year and a half and I haven't gotten pregnant, but I think that is because God knows I am not ready for another kid... I conceived both of the kids I have while I was on birth control so I don't care for it much... plus it makes me all sick and stuff... I don't think there is anything morally wrong with most birth control... I am against abortions and the morning after pill... other than that it is a personal thing I guess... what do you guys think...

okay, so we have established that I will have another baby someday and I don't take birth control... anything else you guys want to know? now that I have rambled on and on I think I should stop now before I go into horror stories from pregnancies past...





6 comments:

manofredearth said...

You asked me what I thought, it's a dangerous thing. :D

Anyway, the only thing that concerns me is the idea that you won't get pregnant because God knows you're not ready for another baby. If you're not sterile and you're having unprotected sex off birth control (sheesh, even on birth control ;)), you should always be ready for another baby. This may fall under the idea that "Well, then it was God's doing and it meant that I was ready". I just struggle to find that to be the case when we know how babies come to be formed. I would find it easier to believe that God wanted you to be pregnant if you were on birth control, though I don't believe God forces our children on us.

Anyway, all of this is said as if we were thinking out loud together, chatting over a beverage. I'm not preaching or condemning, just sharing some thoughts. I hope they're perceived that way. :)

mistic_mommy said...

here is the way I see it... I trust that God is God and He knows best... I have given the whole situation to Him... so I think that if and when I get pregnant again I will view it as what it is, a gift from God... both of my children were concived at what I thought were the worst times possible but I know that they were given to me at those times for a reason... (long story but lots of ppl think that if I had not found out I was pregnant with my first child when I did I would have died very soon) now don't get me wrong I know that any time I have sex the result could be pregnancy, but being that I am happily married and secure and all I don't mind.... If I get pregnant again I will be totally stoked, if not, I have 2 wonderful litte girls that are just great...

Anonymous said...

This is my comment: http://thebreastofhumanity.blogspot.com/2005/02/this-is-my-comment-to-misticmommys.html
That is all.

Anonymous said...

OK. babies are cool, especially when they aren't yours and the parents come to pick them up. But seriously, I LOVE my son. There are times when it seems inconvenient being a parent, but that's jsut selfishness.
Birth Control. OMG!!! I use to so be for the pill. here recently my views have changed. I've been getting more involved with Rock for Life and had been exposed to facts about birth control that I had never known before. One such fact is that you can cause a chemical abortion or "miscarriage" by overdosing on birth control. I use to think the pill released hormones that tricked your body into thinking your were pregnant, so you didn't produce an egg. The pill is designed to: prevent ovulation, cause the mucus in the cervix to change so that sperm cannot enter, or change the lining of the uterus so that if the first two actions fail, and the woman does become pregnant, the tiny baby will die before he or she can actually attach to the lining of the uterus.
OK, so it's a 33% chance that while on the pill, you'll get pregnant, but cause a "chemical abortion". Um, so what if every time you had sex while on the pill, you actually did fertilize and create life, BUT ended up flushing it down the toilet?

roo roo said...

i guess i'm in those odds.. that's what happend to me. i had just started the pill (the first week or two)and got pregnant and miscarried. it was awful. I cried an cried. i blamed the new pill on the way i was feeling. you know crazy harmone imbalance evening out. Not until i miscarried did i realize i actually had been pregnant. it's an awful thing. just my two cents L... we need to talk. I personally don't think you need anymore babies right now.. and plus.. don't you actually have to be having sex (unprotected or protected) in order to become pregnant. so unless you have been keeping major things from me this is a fairly asinine post.

mistic_mommy said...

ruby I am married... of course I have sex occasionally... but no one said I was having a kid right now... we will talk tonight